My 2018: A pivotal year (What happened this year and the lessons I’ve learned)

Circa: January 4. 2017. Somewhere in Poblacion, Makati. Met with my two former colleagues who I started working with again starting April 2018.

Lots of things have happened in 2018. Left my job of close to five years. Started a new career in an industry I never thought of going. Daughter is well on her way to College, but she revealed one day that she got herself a boyfriend. A few months later, she broke up with him for reasons I cannot say here (or she will kill me!) I also got me new friends and colleagues who are mostly younger than me.

I also bought my second car, thanks to my new job that offered me a wonderful loan package. My daily work dress has transformed dramatically. I now own more than 20 ties, a set of decent suits and blazers, dress pants and several pairs of formal leather shoes. (I used to own a pair and worn only in December or during special occasions). My jeans and sneakers are only seen and worn on weekends.

I’ve learned new things at my new job and I fell in love with the convenience of mobile (Internet) banking. I finally got rid of two unused mobile phone plans (one was from another telco which proved useless anyway), and cut down on my online subscriptions to the barest minimum. (I subscribed to numerous online news services sans local news).

And, just a few days ago, I got the best news (perhaps the best news so far for the year): I’m on my way to purchasing a new home, just after I finished paying for the first home my wife and I procured years ago.

At 45 years old, these changes are welcome.

Session Road at my hometown, Baguio City, early in the morning. Jan 6, 2018.

Close friends and people I knew from childhood also passed away in 2018. Some of them were younger than me. Some were the adults when I was still a kid, running amok. They all left a mark in my life, an empty spot in my heart.

2018 was a tough year, if I remember it right. It proved difficult leaving a job you’ve been used to for close to 5 years. It was tougher to break that news to colleagues who have become your confidants and friends. (We still stay in touch; in fact, a number of them I am working with now!)

I also didn’t travel much in 2018. But I spent more time with the family. My daughters are getting older (and bigger) and my wife wants to retire from government service (she’s been there for more than 20 years!).

Me, my two brothers and their spouses and mom (in the middle) in a lodging place in Baguio City.

As tradition dictates, I will try to remember the lessons (things that summarizes important things that happened) I have learned and share them here.

2018 stuff that I learned: A rundown

  1. It’s hard to stay and be healthy. It takes a lot of hard work and discipline (save for time management). I need to plan my 2019 better. I have one former colleague who has already joined two Ironman competition in two years, same time when we both started learning how to swim better.
  2. And yes, I need to plan my life better. I learned this recently during a personal visioning exercise in my job by a newly minted friend and colleague. I realized that while we do a lot of detailed planning at work, we don’t take this practice home and make it work for ourselves.
  3. Habits die hard (read: I’m too lazy to get into new habits). New habits are hard to come by. I need to finish my backlist of books. I also need to return to swimming and running every week. I need to always clean up and live a simple life without clutter, both physically and mentally.
  4. Time on gadgets are still a lot. Needs to be less. Social networks are time-sucks. Binge watching is bad for our health. Gaming, much as I enjoy it, takes a lot of time to finish (100+ hours for one game, for example).
  5. Need to simplify life. Get rid of things that I don’t need. Apply Kanso method, hopefully.
  6. Always find time to laugh.
  7. Read to learn. Apply learning, if you can.
  8. You have fewer friends as you get older (real friends).
  9. Money and time are finite resources. Don’t waste them.
  10. I should be working on my retirement fund, soon! Invest or start to learn how to invest.
  11. Find time for your spiritual health. I also found out recently that I badly need to recharge this part of my life. It’s low on battery.
The author inside the BenCab Museum in Baguio.

Note: The author tries to write more 140 characters to keep the brain healthy.